“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to
die to get there. And yet death is the final destination we all share.” Steve
Job
“As no one has power over the wind to contain it,
so no one has power over the time of their death.
As no one is discharged in time of war,
so wickedness will not release those who practice it.” (Ecclesiastes 8: 8)
so no one has power over the time of their death.
As no one is discharged in time of war,
so wickedness will not release those who practice it.” (Ecclesiastes 8: 8)
Human Existence
We all exist in this world. For
the believers, their existence is a result of the Creator’s unfathomable plan
for them; for the non-believers, their existence comes from their parents. No
matter who we are, we don’t have much of a choice, except to continue to exist.
According to a 2013 report of the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services
Administration, nearly one in five American adults (43.8 millions) had some
form of mental illness. Surprisingly, not too many of those who were depressed
would want to commit suicide or end their lives prematurely; they just wanted
to continue to live a life maybe that was different from what they were
currently living. In other words, irrespective of our mental conditions or
current situations, the majority of us would still want to continue to exist in
this world—maybe just wishing we could continue living our lives in a happier
and more contented way for a little longer.
The Unrealistic Quest
In ancient times, many
individuals were in quest of immortality, especially those in power. For
example, Qin Shi Huang (秦始皇) (259 BC - 210 BC), the First
Emperor of China, had made many futile attempts to discover and access
legendary sources of immortality during his relatively short lifespan. Another
example, the ancient pharaohs of Egypt might not have been on a quest for
immortality because they earnestly believed that they were already immortal;
nevertheless, they had spent an enormous amount of resources into retarding the
decay of their physical bodies, as well as into building spectacular pyramids
and grand tombs in which they could preserve their wealth and riches for their
immortality.
The
Realistic Realities
Nowadays,
we all know the reality that all humans are mortal and that death is as
inevitable as day becoming night.
“Is
there anything we can do about our mortality?” This might be the question that
many of us would like to ask ourselves.
First
of all, man’s perceptions of mortality always change with age and time. If you
ask a young adult if he or she would want to live long, probably the answer is
“I don’t know” or “I just don’t want to grow too old and decrepit, like
my grand-parents.” The young adult’s perspective of mortality also explains why
many of the younger generation are living a reckless lifestyle as if there is
no tomorrow.
Naturally,
their perception of mortality would change over the years as they grow older
with a family of children, or if they have a successful career with all the
trimmings of a luxurious lifestyle that they would like to continue. A longer
lifespan would then become an extension of their own legacy or continuation of
their enjoyment of the fruits of their own accomplishments. The inscription on
the tombstone of Bruce Lee (李小龍), the Hollywood actor, reads: “The key to
immortality is first living a life worth remembering.” That says much about the
hope of many to extend beyond the grave.
As
aging continues, the fear of death or the unknown might also dawn on humans,
driving some of the elderly into craving a longer lifespan in order to delay
and defer the inevitable.
Indeed,
many people may have different perspectives of their own mortality, depending
on their upbringing, the life experiences they have gone though, their religious
beliefs, as well as the meanings of death and dying to them. As a result of the
differences, some may focus too much on death to the extent of creating death
anxiety, while others may deliberately deny the existence of death, just like
the ostrich burying its head in the sand.
Since the beginning of the 20th
century, the life expectancy of Americans has significantly increased from 47
to almost 80. How long do you wish to live, if you just don’t die? And what
would you do with your life, if you just don’t die?
It
is futile to seek immortality. The bottom line: Make the best and the most of what
you have left, live in the present, and live as if everything is a miracle.
Stephen
Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau
