The Science of Happiness about Marriage
Most
Americans still want to get married, not just because of legally binding
themselves to one another, but because of marital bliss and happiness.
According to the science of happiness, married people tend to the wealthier,
healthier, and more sexually fulfilled than unmarried people. Of course, there
are many exceptions.
Marriage
can—but not should—make you happy.
What you need to do is to invest a lot of time and energy into your marriage to
make you happy by turning it into a journey of self-discovery and personal
growth. In other words, a good and happy marriage brings out the best in each
other, and thus instrumental in bringing happiness.
According
to several studies, those who are wealthy and educated get divorced much more
than those who struggle; also, splitting happens more frequently later in life
than they once were. They are the realities of marriage.
Remember:
A good marriage makes you healthier and happier. Marital
bliss lasts longer than the happiness of unmarried couples.
The Science of Happiness about Parenting
Parenting may
bring you satisfaction only if you are intentionally
starting a family. But parenting is undertaking a difficult new venture fraught
with many responsibilities, which are often very unpredictable. In addition,
you are forfeiting a lot of things that made you happy in the past.
Economist Andrew Oswald once said: “It’s not that children make you less happy;
it’s just that children don’t make you more
happy.”
But, according to
a team of Californian psychologists, “overall, parents report happier, more
satisfied, and thinking more about the meaning in life than non-parents do.”
Given that
children create more work for those who love them, young parents, single
parents, and moms may not find happiness in bringing up their children.
Remember:
If you are thinking of having kids to make you happier,
think again! A parent’s first job is not to raise kids, but to enjoy them.
Stephen Lau
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Stephen Lau
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